Waiting to exhale

anyhow, hopefully the entire situation is done with, i cant believe how some people NEVER think to put themselves in anothers place. Anyhow, the saga continues, if she makes the unfortunate choice to be hostile back at me i will start breaking plates and screaming RED RUM till she understands the true extent of my anger. She did get into dental school somehow so hopefully she does the smart thing and ignores the situation completely, because i will DEFINITELY not bring it up after having said everything necessary in the email. tommorrow im going to have to leave at 2pm, can you believe it! time flies, but at least i got to sleep in. was this a good break? i guess. i mean i did go to irvine. lets make a list
Things I did over break
1) went to irvine 2 times
2) saw benny and had fun
3) shopped till i dropped
4) didnt do anything educational
5) watched a lot of tv/movies
6) saw nubie and sushe, mommy and daddy, patti and merds - thank god
7)technically stepped on the beach - cloudy though
8) cut my hair, painted my toes
9) started reading the alchemist - kind of sucks
10) have renewed motivation - not for school, but for willpower and personal habits
11) got to sleep in - FINALLY
12) didnt have to see stupid michigan and dumb people for a while. thank goodness.


NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS
1) LOSE WEIGHT FATSO - especially around the stomach, and tone the thighs
2) Excercise at least 2-3 times a week, there is no real excuse for not doing it on the weekends
3) be able to touch my toes again - aka stretchability
4) eat better, less quantity - aka only eating when hungry, eat less meat
5) be more efficient in studying and my work, including the speed and accuracy of restorations
6)BE HAPPY about school again, have fun
7) talk to more females in my class again - sheesh, what happened!
8) LOOK FOR NEW AND BETTER APARTMENTS to live ALONE in.
9) start reading more books in my sparetime - interesting ones
10) maintain my appearance - wear nice clothes once in a while, dress up, be a jzajza
11) Wake up early (6am) to make these things actually HAPPEN.
12) start shitting regularly again.
13) develop friendships and rappor with patients
14) stop spending so much money.

Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn.

Ah. yet another practice of my literary skills - honest, and lovely. Let it be known.Anyhow, i feel better now after ive let it all out to her - she better not cause me any problems because i will sincerely raise hell. Hell hath no fury like a womans scorn.

IN REGARDS TO THE NOTE.
1)Wasn’t the router $50 with the rebate? Do you have the receipt?

2) First of all, when I first discussed the bloody sheets with you in my room, I felt as though I didn’t make it clear to you the 1st time that I DID wanted my comforter washed, in addition to everything else so I clarified what I meant in the note, by stating EVERYTHING.

3) Secondly, since you allowed Frankman into my room, I decided to let you two take care of the situation and figure out the replacement situation between yourselves, its not MY problem to fix, since I had no part in the damaging it, and I didn’t want to deal or think about it over break, just like I said in my note.

4) Third, I called and LEFT A MESSAGE on Frankman’s voicemail ONE DAY BEFORE writing you the note, and since he didn't respond to me then, and has YET to respond to me, I had no idea whether he received my message or even chose to acknowledge it, and if you look at # 3, its not MY job to follow up on him.

HERE IS WHY I WAS ANGRY.
1)Neither you, BJ or Frankman have FORMALLY APOLOGIZED to me yet. Saying "I
feel bad" is not the same as "I'm sorry."

2) YOU OUTRIGHT LIED TO ME SEVERAL TIMES. Here are your lies:

Telling me that you saw blood in the bathroom before Saturday night was a LIE. You specifically mentioned to have seen bloody nose tissues on the bathroom trash, and blood in the bathroom around Thursday the 9th of December, however you must have forgotten that I was in the bathroom ON SATURDAY MORNING of the 10th washing my hair (I left it curly and asked you if you wanted anything from the grocery store), I also sat on my bed and I didn’t see ANY BLOOD ANYWHERE. The blood would've been obvious since it was all over the countertop and I made my bed that morning as well. Of course, your statement made no sense. (Neither Greg nor I have EVER had a bloody nose in our lives.) So OBVIOUSLY it was
BJ, Frankman, or you - since your last email said that Frankman is replacing my sheets – yes, it was him, as I knew all along.

Telling me that you saw blood on my sheets BEFORE you got in it on Saturday night was ALSO a LIE. Since it was Frankman's bloody nose, the blood would've been fresh, and you'd have known it was him, and not Greg or I - as the blood would've dried.

Telling me that you saw the blood on my sheets, and slept in the crack of my bed to avoid it, when I asked you "why you would sleep on a bloody pillow?" was ALSO a LIE.Telling me that Frankman must have slept on my previously bloody pillow was ALSO a LIE.

You didn’t SPECIFICALLY tell me that there was blood on my sheets when I talked to you at Delta Sig, you only mentioned the blood in the bathroom, and you asked me "where it came from" -- OBVIOUSLY you knew where the blood came from, so this too was indirectly a lie.You must think I’m some kind of idiot to fall for that kind of BS; this is what makes me the most angry. I HAVE AN EXTREMELY SHARP MEMORY.

3)BOTH OF YOU INVADED MY PRIVACY: You didn’t receive my permission before invading my privacy by letting someone into my room, I realize I may not have made my privacy issues clear, but I would think that you'd at least have the courtesy to ask and the respect to not let a drunken person in my room. Not only that, but you also entered my room and lay in my bed when you were SICK, without any regard to my well being, especially during finals week.

4) BOTH OF YOU TRIED TO COVER IT UP FOR 4 DAYS: You and Frankman let the blood FESTER in my bed and in the bathroom for FOUR days, without telling me, or doing anything about it.The sheets should've been replaced as SOON as possible after they were damaged, instead of ignoring the problem for 4 days and hoping that it would go away. And not 4 weeks afterwards, either. I shouldn't have to be without sheets until a time that’s "more convenient for him", when he damaged it in the first place. In any case, at least he is replacing it, and I will wait for him to get back from break. ANYONE, after seeing the amount of blood on outside and inside the pillowcase, would KNOW that it MUST have seeped through and infected the pillow itself. That pillow is Greg’s - so Frankman can talk to him about it.

Despite his intentions, Frankman has DAMAGED MY PROPERTY, so it’s only right for him to replace it, or give me the money to replace it myself - and YES, I am DEMANDING that he does, because it’s MY RIGHT, not because I am trying "power up" on you, as you so eloquently put it.

What upsets me the most is that until now, I've been COMPLETELY nice to you, I've let you borrow all of my books, all of my notes, some my clothes and the majority of my belongings, laughed with you, confided in you, and went out of my way to make your transition to dental school comfortable - and despite my trust in you, you had no problem lying over and over again directly to my face.

Hopefully by now you realize that I have EVERY RIGHT to EXPRESS that anger to you, because you've LIED and DISRESPECTED ME by REPEATEDLY trying to cover it up-- NOT because you made a mistake and thought that I would be ok with having them sleep in my bed, or that Frankman unknowingly had a bloody nose. Anyone would agree that you have NO right to be irritated or angry with me, and you are especially in NO POSITION to have written your last email in that tone to me.

How DARE you complain to me about your "irritation" with how "contentious" and "rude" my note was, after the position you’ve put me in? Instead, you should be THRILLED because I made conscious effort put aside my rage, and treated you NICELY with a STRAIGHTFORWARD NOTE, instead of a note reflecting my TRUE anger, or outright VERBAL ABUSE. Despite this entire incident, ALL I REALLY WANTED was for my sheets to be replaced by the time I got back-- is that really so much to ask?

Lastly, this isn’t Undergrad, and I'm not one for drama - we've both gotten our
aggressions out in the open and I don't plan on discussing my feelings on this topic with you again, so let’s put this entire matter behind us and deal with each other respectfully from now on. I have a few other things to ask of you for the upcoming semester, and we'll deal with it face to face when I'm back. In regards to the sheets, I'll call or email to Frankman and find out when he will be back from break. Please don’t bother responding to this email, because I won't be checking it until I'm in Ann Arbor.

Sincerely,
Nadia

my course evaluations - YOU KNOWWWW BIOTCH.

First of all, I want to make it clear that I usually dont fill out surveys because I feel as though my opinion means nothing compared to the research money you get from some of the "instructors" at this university. However, I was so dissapointed in my treatment at U of M this semester that I feel I must express this to someone, so here is my HONEST opinion of this class. ALL of the "educational" lectures in this course were a repetition of what we already knew. Everything IMPORTANT that we were supposed to know about clinic was POORLY explained, and I was better off asking a D4 or D3 for a CLEAR explanation of what to do, rather than going to the lectures in this class. The "seminars" and "lectures" were obviously an attempt by the director to arbritarily fill up space in our schedule. Students were treated rudely and the course director had no respect for their time or efforts. The exams in this class were an UTTER JOKE, as it was obvious that the instructor was completely disorganized and had this class as our last priority. Again, I did not take a quarter of a million dollars in loans out to have this kind of poor disorganized teaching at this school. I don't care what kind of top researchers you get at this school, have a TEACHER TEACH STUDENTS, not a researcher. I hope you can fix the problems in this class soon.

Once again, I want to make it clear that I usually dont fill out surveys because I feel as though my opinion means nothing compared to the research money you get from some of the "instructors" at this university. However, I was so dissapointed in my treatment by Dr. Hasson this semester that I feel I must express this to someone, so here is my HONEST opinion.
1 - I have NEVER seen such RUDE treatment to students in my ENTIRE EDUCATIONAL CAREER.
2 - COMPLETELY DISORGANIZED - makes up deadlines, schedules final exams DURING finals week.
3 - DOES NOT COMMUNICATE WELL WITH STUDENTS - despite being rude, she doesnt understand our questions and therefore doesn't respond properly. lack of understanding, lack of proper communication back. Any student or faculty member could have walked into her office and seen this treatment
4 - DOES NOT HAVE RESPECT FOR OUR TIME - it doesnt take 1 hr to explain how to mount articulators, we've done this several times last year and this year in RPD. Additionally, class ALWAYS starts 10-15 minutes late, and with a conversation to someone in the front row.
5 - PLAYS FAVORITES - Selectively nice to certain students

Once again, I want to make it clear that I usually dont fill out surveys because I feel as though my opinion is not anonmymous and not read or taken seriously by instructors at this school. However, I was so dissapointed in my treatment by Dr. Tarrazzi this semester and was UNABLE to express these feelings without fear of being graded down or chastized that I feel I must express this to someone, so here is my HONEST opinion.
1 - I have NEVER been so PATRONIZED in my ENTIRE EDUCATIONAL CAREER
2 - ASKED STUDENTS TO SEE THEIR PRACTICAL GRADES IN ANOTHER CLASS - never mind that these sheets have HONOR CODES on them, and the class is not taught by her anyhow. This was asked solely to compare the students to each other and perhaps grade them in their work accordingly. DESPICABLE BEHAVIOR!
3 - GRADES HARSHLY FOR THE SAKE OF DOING SO - despite our 1st trial at making a denture, she expects us all to be prosthodontists and have that quality of work. Upon presenting materials for the SECOND TIME to the Course directors, they graded me CONSISTENTLY as an A, whereas Dr. Tarrazzi continously gave our row C's.
4 - COMPARES STUDENTS WORK TO EACH OTHER - consistently showed me the work of another student in our row, as an example, and USED other students as an example of what NOT to do. This not only ruined the motivation to do good work in this class, but caused me to dislike the course in general
5 - ROLLED HER EYES AT ME - when I answered her question. Can you believe it... from an INSTRUCTOR! i myself was shocked.
6 - DISCUSSES OUR WORK WITH OTHER INSTRUCTORS - other students have heard her discussing the work of our row with another row instructor. our grades and performance should be private, whether its praised or not. UNNACCEPTABLE.
7 - Asked another student for the name of who messed up during the practical - what ever happened to honor codes!lack of privacy